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A Love-Hate Relationship

February 21, 2010

Text and Photograph by Judy Crosby

I am sure that everyone at sometime in their lives has had a love – hate relationship with something or someone. My love – hate relationship is with cooking. The love part comes in because I enjoy food and still like to eat a few times a day. The hate part comes, because I don’t want to be the person that has to fix that food.

 When these feelings started, I am not exactly sure. It happened over a period of years, gradually, coming in small stages, catching me quite unaware.  I just know that one day I woke up and could not think of anything to fix for dinner and decided I hated cooking and everything that went with it, the planning of dinners, shopping for groceries, preparing the food and then the cleanup. In the past 20 years, I have developed numerous hobbies and interests; and to stop anyone of these on a given day and have to cook has become burdensome for me.

My feelings towards cooking weren’t always ones of hate, when I was first married it was fun to look in my cookbook and pick out recipes I had never tried before, which wasn’t hard to do, since I cooked very little before getting married. Every evening I was excited to see the response of my husband Ron, as I served him my newest endeavor. In all honesty, these recipes didn’t always turn out as I hoped they would.

One evening as Ron was eating dinner, he said quite innocently, “This is pretty good, one of these days you will cook as good as my Mom.”  With these words ringing in my ears, I burst into tears and ran into our bedroom. Ron, not sure what he had done wrong, did try to console me that night.

One husband, four children, and 54 years later I did become a better cook. The irony of this was now that my cooking was as good as Ron’s Mothers’ I realized I hated to cook. One night I was complaining to Ron about not having any ideas for dinner. Always the practical one in our relationship, he suggested, “Why don’t you keep a list of our dinners for a month, and then at the beginning of the new month just start over again, by that time we will both have forgotten what we had the month before.”

At first, Ron’s idea did not appeal to me, but then I decided to try it. An interesting scenario came from this, I started writing down our dinners, and I found myself wanting to try new dishes and my interest in cooking returned to a small degree.

 I still like fast, simple recipes. Here is one my granddaughter gave me. Copyright © 2010 Judy Crosby


 Maple Roasted Chicken 

Serves 4

  1. Peel 2-3 small sweet potatoes and cut into 1 in. pieces
  2. Cut 2 lbs. of chicken (I use breasts) into 1 in. pieces.
  3. Cut up 1 small onion

 Place chicken and vegetables in casserole dish.

Drizzle 2 Tbsp. of olive oil. Sprinkle with 1 tsp. salt, ¼ tsp. pepper over ingredients and toss to coat.

Drizzle 3 Tbsp of maple syrup over all. Top with 6 sprigs of thyme.

Bake at 400° for 1 hour 




Julie & Julia

February 8, 2010

I just finished watching Julie & Julia on DVD for the umpteenth time. Except for the use of the f-word, I LOVE everything about this movie:  the actors, the sets, the lighting, the music, the perfectly stupendous transitions between scenes, a-n-d the love letters.

Paul Child’s correspondence to his brother and Julia’s to her sister and her pen pal express what is oftentimes a rare, supportive relationship between couples. Who would have known–not Paul or Julia, I’m sure–that their loved ones treasured the letters so much they kept them for a lifetime.

Then there’s Julia’s passion to lead a constructive life . . . “to have something to do,” in France. Julie’s was to fulfill a writing talent lost in the publishers’ world of daunting rejections. Together–without ever having met one another–Julie and Julia found their way through their love of cooking.

The first time I watched Julie & Julia, I walked out of the movie theater with a desire to learn how-to-love-to-cook. That was two months ago. It hasn’t happened yet! Frankly, I don’t think it will. Nevertheless, these characters, in their real-life roles, reassure me that LOVE enlightens us to all types of passions and channels. We just have to keep trying. Try until we discover the right lover (if you’re already single, that is), hobby, career, or whatever it is that we seek. Never give up!

Technically, Saint Valentine’s Day is for sweethearts, but to me it’s also for all things LOVED, now and in the future.

Happy Saint Valentine’s Day!

Copyright © 2010 Dianne Marie Andre.

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